Blame is assessed, presented, and given everywhere. It’s a complex monster, but describing the basic setup of this powerful entity is easy. The scariest and most wreckless scope of blame is labeling it as “human nature” so it encompasses everyone. We don’t understand this nature. Only one understands blame and thusly has the authority of assessing blame.
First, we’ll look at a familiar example of blame – technical difficulties. I recently watched a COVID 19 presentation on coping with fear that had some technical issues. “I don’t have sound.” “Ridiculous.” “Let’s see if it works.” “We’ll give it a whirl.” These statements spoken during the presentation had varying degrees of blame in them. We all have different degrees of our own ego that creates this blame.
There are many ways to blame – Misdirect, secretly expose, frame, comment, anonymous feedback, hearsay, gossip, slander, libel, etc. Even a simple look or realization can create self blame (a.k.a. shame)
We project perceptions and qualities on others that may or may not be largely accurate. It’s typically easier to blame instead of trying to solve the issue, which is why blame is so rampant, especially in media. It’s often subtle; check out this recent “fail” commercial:
Blame closely relates to fairness and justice, especially in crime. Do we excuse “crimes of passion” or does a criminal get the same sentence upon judgment. How does free will and intention/motive will factor in? What do we do with criminals? How do we consider conscious decisions and/or urges? Is it just human nature that can’t be helped? Does the person make the choice or is he or she just a conduit for other predetermined causes?
Do we use scapegoats (e.g. COVID-19) for things going wrong? Failure can happen at a high rate – how does that stop us from trying new things? What are our priorities? What beliefs do we keep, revise, and/or eliminate? Where are our insecurities?
Ultimately, we can’t pretend to be God. We can control our actions, but must analyze and consider how much control we really do have. We can understand human behavior better and consider positive ways to help others.
Matthew 7:3-5 says:
3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.
Romans 2:1-3 says:
God’s Righteous Judgment
2 You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge another, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things. 2 Now we know that God’s judgment against those who do such things is based on truth. 3 So when you, a mere human being, pass judgment on them and yet do the same things, do you think you will escape God’s judgment?
We can look at ourselves. Galatians 6:5 states “for we are each responsible for our own conduct.”
Many people like to fix things and move on, but some reflection and restraint is key. Are we concerned about what others might say about us or can we have the intelligence, awareness, and fortitude to fix our own mistakes while taking the blame in whatever state it’s in. We don’t want to ignore feedback, but the proper perspective helps (e.g. can we put extraordinary weight on this person’s criticism of this particular area or is it just one person’s opinion?)
So escape the gossip and don’t just follow the crowd. Try not to be a show-off and be proud of your achievement in respectful ways. Do your research and get credible support/evidence for yourself when dealing with others. Don’t ruthlessly view everyone else as competition Avoid the ‘blame game’ and learn how to constructively respond to and incorporate criticism. Depend on the most powerful resource ever – our all-knowing God.